What the Hell!
Why do we?
Why do we still try to be “normal”? There isn’t one normal, everyone has their own normal, no two people are the exact same. Being heterosexual doesn’t make you normal, being white doesn’t make you normal, and being a 6-foot male doesn’t make you normal. We don’t need to be the normal that everyone describes, being normal means being yourself, not a fake version you make up.
Why do we get judged on everything we do? We can do what we like, you want to use makeup, you do that, as long as what you are doing isn’t harmful or dangerous you just go for it. Don’t let others tell you otherwise. We don’t need to feel bad for something we are proud of.
Why do we let labels identify us? We are all unique individuals, why don’t we look beyond the labels we get given, we aren’t confined to just who we appear to be. We don’t have to listen to people tell us who we are, don’t let other people take off parts of you to replace with new parts. We need to learn to look beyond the labels
Why do we get judged based on our appearance? We are all beautiful as we are, we don’t need to be ashamed of our appearance. We need to block out all the negative comments and don’t let them get to us. Everyone is beautiful in their own way.
Why do we let people objectify us? We aren’t just a thing that people can use, we are all people, why do we let people look at us as if we are an inanimate object, we deserve better. This occurs in all genders, not just females like many people believe. Us, men we get objectified all the time.
Why do we let others tell us what we can and can’t do? People don’t need to feel constrained to what others expect of us. Instead of being the person others want you to be, we should instead be focused on how to improve ourselves. If people don’t don’t like what you are doing, don’t let them stop you.
Why do we have to be perfect? We are our own person and others have to love us for who we really are. Be yourself, we aren’t toys that people can just throw away when they think we aren’t useful. If people don’t love all of you, they don’t love you, they love a fictional version of you that they made up in their mind. We aren’t made to satisfy someone else needs, we need to learn how to love someone else for who they really are.
Why do we expect men to not have emotions? Men are humans too, we experience pain, sometimes too much, yet it’s unexpected for a man to cry in public. Men get just as emotional as women yet we just cannot express it. We aren’t allowed to cry, and many families teach their sons that crying is a sign of weakness, yeah that’s just bullshit. People believing that men are expected to remain strong is just so wrong.
Why do we have so many expectations? Who made up that women can’t be single, who made up that toxic masculinity? We all get given expectations, sometimes by our families, friends, and partners, but how often are these needed. Men aren’t always strong, we have moments where we just want to cry when our favorite character from a TV show dies when we are alone. Why do we need to be alone to cry, why does everyone else expect men to not have feelings. Why are there so damn many expectations.
Why do we let others influence us into unhealthy eating disorders? We let others indicate the way we look, with the increased pressure from the internet people are often felt that they have to look a certain way. We feel like we are never good enough even though people love you for who you are and you don’t need to look a certain way. We shouldn’t feel like we need to compare ourselves and feel that you’re not beautiful. You are beautiful no matter what.
Why do we have to listen to others? Why do we let our friend and sometimes even parents decide what we do? We have to listen to our parents but do they always know what is good for you. For example, I wanted to be a film major, but instead I’m trapped listening to lectures about commerce I really don’t care about. I listened to my parents and regret deeply
Why do we get judged for our race? We are more than how we look, we have personalities. With big cities like LA having a beauty standard of white and blond people. We shouldn’t have to feel like you are less beautiful or fit in just because you aren’t the same race. Why is our race determining our everyday situations? We are more than that and you shouldn’t be judged for being who you are.
Why do we compare ourselves to each other? Why are we constantly looking at hotter people and say that you aren’t as hot as them? We don’t need to compare ourselves and feel bad for not looking like the actor we see on screen. We don’t need others to have opinions on our bodies.
Why do we have so many insecurities? We put on a mask every day of our lives to hide our real selves. Many haven’t seen the real you, is that really what you want others to love about you? A fake? When you decide to walk out of your house being someone that isn’t you is that you leave everything that is you behind. We leave our true selves locked up and over time we lose parts of it until it’s completely gone and you have no sense of your real self.
Why do we need family? Family isn’t just who we are born with, people associate the term family with people that you are born to, but you can create your own supportive family. Sometimes we aren’t lucky enough to be born into a fully supportive family but instead we need to make our own.
Why do we get so hooked on working? Why is it seen as a waste of time to do things we love, we still need to allocate time for ourselves to relax and enjoy our hobbies. Why are we told that doing what we love is a waste of time yet chasing your dreams aren’t. Chasing your dream is just basically doing what you love and yet we can’t do that?
Why do we?